Can Sex and Love be separated ?
Why do we Love ?
Is sex/love just for reproduction ? or personal pleasure ? or anything else that we don’t know ?
those question may have different answer for everyone , but just want to discuss with you guys.
what do you think?
further reading:
我個人認為性和愛是分開的
性只是愛的一部份… 好多愛都未必有性的
一對情侶/夫妻 相愛的因素太多… 不過一定離不開感覺
SEX 這方面… 除了SP 或 交易 外… SEX都是出於雙方的感覺…是雙方的滿足&快樂
so in your opinion is sex possible without love ?
and what do you think “feeling” is ?
我認為是的… 因為都沒可能次次都搞的… 而且你愛一個人的話,不是因為SEX而愛的
SP 這個關係是源於滿足… 當中是沒有愛的元素存在… 而交易更是單方面的
FEELING…我只能用互相吸引來形容…是絕對感性的…當中沒有任何所謂道理&理性可言
so does feeling include "like"or “affection” ?
and what is love mean to you?
看來你有誤解了
SP 和 交易 的SEX 的確是沒這2個元素
而一般的男女朋友的SEX 就有這2個元素
愛情…是我覺得一種守護,支持,信任+感覺結合而成的
First of all, I think sex does not only refer to sexual intercourse. It also includes sexual desires or even kissing or touching. Therefore, I do not agree that there is no sexual intercourse, so there is no sex.
And I do agree that different people have different interpretation on the questions but I have read some discussion on a book called 非常好性 (2008). It stated the differences among love (愛情), affection(愛) and sex (性). And I am quite agree with that. It said that affection and sex can appear separately such as there are friendship and family love which do not involve sex. And there is sex but no affection in relationships like sp or sexual trade. When there are sex and affection at the same thing. It’s love. But for me, I think love is more like a spectrum instead of sex+affection=love. Sometimes, there are more sex than love, for example in a sp relationship. Sometimes sex and love is equally strong which turns to a high point of the relationship.
Sex and Love are important survival feature to human to create bonding and reproduction. At the same time, human like to romanticize it to make life a little more exciting lol 